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When I was thinking of starting The Small Change Project and thinking about my skills, my experience and what I knew there were these two worlds that didn’t seem to match.

My current world was my relationship with Adam, travel, moving and setting up our home over and over again. My inspiration came from our life together. The lessons we learned felt monumental and I REALLY wanted to share them.

But that’s not a business. right?

On the  other had I had a degree in Business. I had focused on Marketing and Leadership. I knew a lot about business.

Isn’t that what people want help with?

I started blogging about small changes through lens of my own home life and relationship, but in the background I felt I should help entrepreneurs and small businesses.

2 months into my business I signed up for B-School. It’s a 6 week intense course that taught me so much about the world of online entrepreneurship. That community is heavily focused on female online entrepreneurs. I didn’t quite realize until now that going through that course solidified my belief that I could only make a business if I focused ON business.

After B-School I had trouble writing blog posts. I felt lost in my direction. Even though I know a lot about business and I am good at consulting others on their business I wasn’t passionate about it and something felt off. I didn’t quite feel qualified either.

There were a plethora of business coaches out there who were doing a fantastic job.

All the time I was feeling lost I kept hearing.

Take note of what people ask your advice on and do that!

I knew that people kept asking my advice on how to organize their home, arrange their furniture. And I always get asked for relationship advice or the “secret” to a long lasting relationship. That question comes up as soon as people hear how long Adam and I have been together.

Even though I got asked those questions all the time I couldn’t connect the dots.

That’s not a business. How do I “do” that?

Fast forward to August of last year. I was having a ton of coffee’s with women who had their own businesses and they were going so well. I was really helping them and it was pretty good at it.

Have so many coffee sessions go so well really confused me. Yes I was helping them with their business, but I was more so helping them with their lifestyle. But could I sell that? Is that what women really want from me?

Let’s fast forward again to Lifestyle Design Camp.

At camp I teach a lesson on setting up your external environment to support the life you want to have. When we designed the camp I had no idea that one lesson would become so pivotal for so many women.

Adam was helping the entire weekend and he let me use our marriage and home life as examples for each lesson. By the second day the ladies could really witness for themselves the type of relationship we had. During the work time on that second day Jina and I were walking around giving one-on-one help creating their plans. All of the questions I got were about marriage, relationships and home life. Specifically how to set everything up to function happily together.

We closed that session with a  group Q&A and again the questions for me were about

how to bring your spouse into this new lifestyle?

How I got to the point of saying “we” all the time?

Really, how did we create such a happy home life?

I could easily answer their questions and I truly felt in my element talking about the methods Adam and I use at home. It was funny to be answering as he was buzzing around in the background helping out.

I didn’t actually put 2 + 2 together until Jina and I had our debrief day when it finally hit me.

This is what my tribe wants from me. This is what I keep getting asked about. THIS is my expertise.

I can’t believe I didn’t see it before. It’s why I started The Small Change Project. It’s what most of my blog posts have been about AND I’m passionate about it.

I had this realization back in February and it’s taken me this long to get past all of the resistance and limiting beliefs I had to finally own it.

In that time I’ve been getting emails asking for more relationship advice and language for how do I talk to my husband about this stuff?

As soon as I opened up to the idea of focusing my business on my true expertise the universe rewarded me with a clear path. The more I welcomed it the more emails and requests I got.

In the weeks and even hours leading up to this blog post I have truly felt aligned. This is what I’m here to teach. THIS is what I’m an expert in. I have easily spent 10,000 hours on this stuff. Adam and I are coming up on our 14 year anniversary. We’ve been together though the years when we were both our most bat-shit-crazy selves. I’ve set up homes (and lifestyles) for us 6 times in the last 5 years. This is what I do. This is what I know.

So this I what I will teach.

I know you’re probably thinking “Duh, Katie! This is what you’ve been teaching the whole time.”

And you’re right. I just didn’t realize that. It was clouded by this idea that I needed to focus on business like everyone else.

Well the clouds have cleared.

I’m focusing fully on home, relationships and how to marry the two on a daily basis. I’m focusing on taking that daily grind and turning into daily gratitude.

It’s going to all be about the everyday, day-to-day, because that’s where your WHOLE LIFE lives.

As I’m finishing this blog post I’m realizing that I really wrote it for myself. Not a whole lot will change on your end. Yes I’ll be writing more about my marriage, but really I just needed to claim this focus and announce it to the world.

You can expect to learn more about my home life. You can expect me to go way more in detail about my days and my relationship (with Adam’s approval.) You can expect a new offering that is solely about relationships.

Mostly though, things will stay the same at The Small Change Project. Because I was right from the very beginning.

I just didn’t know it.

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I am a homebody. I love a good glass of wine a full Netflix queue and snuggling up close to Adam. If I didn’t push myself I could probably do that every night of my life.

Even though I really enjoy it I know that’s not living. Not living fully anyway. There’s something missing from my life when I stay home too long.

This situation gets remedied by invites more often than not. We always contemplate saying yes because our couch is so enticing, but in the end both Adam and I know it’s good for us to get out.

Recently we were invited to a live storytelling night. We had never been to something like that before so we were both unsure of what to expect.

It had been a stressful work day. We were both finishing work right to the last minute before I picked Adam up at his office 10 minutes late. Both completely exhausted, a little frazzled and wondering why we said yes to a night out.

We walked in to a packed bar. Dark, loud, energy buzzing. We had our tickets already so we walked to the front of the long line.

Within 10 minutes of catching up with our friends we both felt better. Smiling we glanced at each other. Yep, this was the right choice. The lights go down and the host says one sentence that gets the crowd rolling.

I can feel the vibrations of the laughing room in my heart. It’s exciting! People (who volunteered 30 minutes before) get up on stage to tell personal stories that have me laughing harder than I’ve laughed in weeks. Then crying, then rooting them on for the bravery to get up there and bare it all for a room full of strangers.

Truly a tangible, live, visceral experience. I can’t get that from Netflix. There’s a filling up of my energetic cup that comes from experiencing emotion with other human beings. In person.

Adam and I walk out beaming, clutching hands and practically skipping to our car. The ride home is short and in that 5 minutes we both confirm and take a mental note of the importance of going to live, in the flesh, events with other human beings. It’s irreplaceable fuel for our life tank.

So if you’ve been feeling blah, lifeless, all Netflix-ed out…

Try This

Go be around live human beings. Close the laptop, shut down Apple TV and put pants on.

Laugh with other people, smell the room, taste the food, feel the energy.

No matter how hard we all try or want to believe live experience can not be replaced by the internet. It doesn’t matter how funny the show is or moving the documentary can feel, real life experience happens in real life.

The great part about it is that it’s usually not that hard and not that expensive. It doesn’t take a lot of planning to hear stories or go to the local theater. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Just do it.

And then ride the high of real-life until the next experience presents itself.

Because this is your whole life. And you won’t look back wishing you spent more time watching TV. At least I hope not.

Now over to you: What’s one real life experience you can participate in soon? Commit to it by commenting below.


Screen Shot 2014-04-17 at 12.29.54 PMI am a self-help junkie. I’ve been DIY-ing my life for years. In the last year or so I’ve gotten more into what I call the spiritual self-help world. My inbox and Facebook feed are regular filled with women like Danielle Laporte, Marianne Williamson, Kris Carr and my new favorite Tara Bliss.

Words like universe, light, energy, resistance, ego and love come out of my mouth on a daily basis and are frequently used in everything I read.

I usually see Jina once or twice a week and she’s my first friend who is also in that world so I am surrounded by it, consuming it and breathing it in ALL. THE. TIME.

I love it! It’s my new life. It’s who I am now.

Lately I’ve been taking stock on how this new way of thinking is showing up in my life. What are the small changes I’ve made and what have been the results?

I’m meditating almost daily (thanks mostly to Jina)
I feel myself judging and experiencing judgment less.
I rarely experience guilt or anxiety.
I find myself smiling more and I’ve noticed my shoulders aren’t as tense.
I’m doing yoga on an almost daily basis. (An indirect result of the meditation. Hey, I’m already on the mat!)

Overall I just feel and show the love more.

If those aren’t enough reasons to check out anyone listed above then I don’t know what would be.

But. And this is a big BUT.

What I’m learning lately is that although this stuff, journey, path, way of thinking is all VERY important to me and VERY beneficial…

It’s not always about the inner work.

Choosing to see things differently doesn’t help me when I banged my knee after tripping over the shoes in our tiny entry way.

Trusting the universe doesn’t get me to my meeting any faster after getting a late start because I couldn’t find notebook.

And all of the meditations, visualization exercises and soothing yoga sequences are MUCH harder (if not nearly impossible) to do when I can barely find space to roll out the mat and then I step on a sharp dog bone that sends sharp pain straight to my brain.

Sometimes your external environment needs to be addressed before anything else.

And I don’t just mean cleaning. Although it helps it’s not the solution.

At Lifestyle Design Camp I focus a lot of time on teaching how the importance of your external environment. And by external environment I mean everything outside of your body, but within your control that you encounter every day. Like your home, car, office and purse.

These things trigger emotions constantly. And depending on what emotions they trigger your external environment can have a huge impact on your day, mood, health, relationships and the person that you become.

Think about all of the times you feel frustrated, annoyed or overwhelmed by something you encounter daily. That’s an external environment trigger that makes it THAT much harder to be the loving, kind and accomplished person you are trying to be.

That’s why I think it’s vitally important to address your external environment… as if your life depended on it. Because, well, it sort of does.

THIS is your whole life. This is MY whole life.

I don’t want to spend it in a negative state when I have complete control over SO many things.

The deeper and more faithful I get in my self-care, spiritual life journey the lower my tolerance is for external triggers that take away from my peaceful, loving and productive life.

It’s about time we all took back control over our environments and stopped allowing them to sabotage our potential. It’s time we raise our standards for what a good day feels like. It’s time to say I deserve better to the idea that it’s normal to spend all of your time, energy and money just getting through each day.

Because you do deserve better. We all deserve better.

Let’s say yes please to the inner work and realize that our homework is making our HOME WORK.

So my question to you is:

What’s one area in your home that triggers a not-so-positive emotion? Share below.

P.S. If you’re ready to work on your external environment you don’t have to guess where to start. I wrote an entire ebook on it that walks you through EXACTLY what to do. No paint gallons or design skills required.

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Small Changes Have Big Immpact

Before I ever started The Small Change Project when I knew I had something to share, but didn’t quite know what – there was an underlying theme. Throughout our relationship and our travels Adam and I had discovered that certain small tweaks to how we did things had really big impact on our lives. Each time it happened we couldn’t believe it. Many times we felt like we should shout the results from the roof top. As if we had found the secret. It wasn’t until we’d made many changes that we realized it wasn’t the changes themselves it was just change at this level.

It was change on such a small scale that made the big impact so surprising.

Before we were even cognizant of it we had developed a process for making small changes. We knew how impactful they had been in our life. We didn’t really realize we had a process we just realized we liked the results and we wanted more.

Fast forward to our kitchen table when we were discussing what my business should be called. What was the essence of what I was about to do? What had we been doing all along. We talked about how all of the small changes we make in our life have such a huge impact for how small they are. That’s when the name The Small Change Project came up.

For almost two years now I’ve been thinking about, writing about and teaching about small changes that have big impact on our daily lives.

Oddly enough it wasn’t until the pilot Lifestyle Design Camp that someone finally asked me,

Why do you think small changes have such a big impact?


Basically whats behind this foundational message of your entire company?

I’m glad she had the courage to ask because I can’t believe I’ve never had to explain it until now.

The short answer? Because most people have never thought about it before.

I’ll explain.

Reason #1: You’re used to doing so many things without any intention in the first place. Your cups are in the cupboard to the left because that’s where they got put when you moved in. You buy groceries on Sunday night because that’s when your mom bought her groceries. You eat cereal and a banana for breakfast because that’s what you at for breakfast in college. You work 8:30-5:00 because that’s what everyone at your office does. Never mind that there are other options.

Many, MANY times the things you’re doing without even thinking about it are not done in a way that best serves you and your life. So when you make a small change to how you do things you feel a huge impact. And since you never thought about it before it use only takes a small adjustment to be doing it the best way for you.

Reason #2: You haven’t taken the time to compare what IS working versus what ISN’T. You’re so close to perfect and you don’t even know it. That’s why all it takes is a small change to get there. So many things ARE going right and it’s often just one small thing that’s holding up the show. That’s why it feels like such a huge impact when you identify that one small thing and everything else falls into place. Plus when you look at any situation and really think about what is working and what isn’t working the changes to make become very clear.

Reason #3: Because EVERYTHING in your life is connected! You really feel the big impact as the results of the small change you made filter into all of the other areas of your life.

Let me give you a (based on real life) example.

Currently you come home from work to a messy kitchen that you don’t even want to look at, much less cook in. You get in a short argument with your partner about cleaning duties before you both agree not to fight then order takeout. The night is off to a rough start so you each grab separate spots on the couch to watch TV for the night.

You recognize that coming home to a messy kitchen is the trigger for all of it. So you shift your schedule by 10 minutes to give your and your partner time to do the dishes in the morning. (Definitely a small change)

Now you come home to a clean house. You know it’s clean on your drive home so you’re no longer prepping your mood for a fight. Instead you’re primed and ready for cleanliness and peace. Because your kitchen is clean you both feel like whipping up dinner together. (I’m guessing your home cooked meal is healthier than takeout) Since that experience was pleasant you decide to eat dinner at the table together. That turns into a wonderful conversation filled with jokes and stories from the day. You feel satisfied from the meal and happy from the time spent with your partner. You both start talking about what your going to have for dinner the next night and pretty soon you’re writing a grocery list and practicing meal planning.

By the time you reach the living room to relax you’re both in a really peaceful and happy mood. You snuggle up real close to watch the newest season of Mad Men. Maybe it’s Don Draper’s smooth ad lingo or Joan’s fabulous costume, but soon you no longer need Netflix for entertainment. ;)

I’ll let you fill in the rest of the evening, but you can start to see just how connected your life is. This small snapshot of an evening at home shows how being intentional with your daily life and making small changes can have a huge impact on EVERYTHING! Shifting your schedule by 10 minutes could have an effect on your eating habits, relationship with your partner, mood, and sex life. HUGE!

Now imagine the effects after doing this small change for a month. I’m sure you could get used to evenings like that. Imagine making other small changes. A month later you’ll be so far down the path of small change that you’ll forget how you even got started. All you know is you’re liking what your life looks like today.

Seem worth it?

I think so.

So get started! Make one small change this weekend and watch the impact unfold. If you’re stuck, I’m here to help.



It’s time for me to share another small change that is totally rocking our world lately. We have changed who gets the groceries in our family. When I say it like that it sounds like a small change. And in the grand scheme of things it is, but this has been OH-SO-BIG for us.

Let me back up.

Over the course of our marriage and the many cities we’ve lived in we’ve had different strategies for getting the groceries. In Baton Rouge we lived very close to a Target and we often went together. In Santa Fe we didn’t do much cooking (because Santa Fe has the best food in the country) which meant our grocery shopping was minimal. We lived within walking distance of one Whole Foods and Adam’s office was within walking distance of the other Whole Foods. I KNOW! That awesome trifecta of 2 Whole Foods plus the best restaurants meant we ate VERY well and it was VERY easy. I would walk over and grab ingredients for dinner that night or Adam would come home with a baguette and some cheeses. It was heavenly!

Things changed when we moved to Minnesota and lived out in the burbs. We were pretty far from the Whole Foods and from Adam’s office. Since we only had one car I found the perfect grocery shopping option was to drop Adam off at work and then go to Whole Foods afterwards since I was already close. The perfect time? Friday mornings. The store was empty and I could get all the help I needed when I couldn’t find an obscure item on our list (which happens all the time.)

Our grocery needs changed again when we moved into Saint Paul AND when I launched Lifestyle Design Camp.

The biggest change came from LDC. All of a sudden I had a huge workload and was swamped by my tasks for our life on top of that new workload. Something had to give. Like other times in the past we talked about what tasks Adam could take over. We knew it was important to choose carefully so it would actually work out for our family.

At this same time Adam had gotten really into cooking. He suggested that since he was the one cooking he should take over the grocery shopping. I was all for it. You know how everyone has those tasks that you would gladly pay someone to do for the rest of your life because you JUST. DON’T. LIKE. IT? That’s grocery shopping for me. I even researched if there was a delivery service in our city. (There isn’t.)

What I don’t like about grocery shopping is that is will never be finished. You make the list, drive there, go through the process of reading the ingredients list on everything and filling your cart with whole foods, bag it up, carry it into your house, unload it, put it away…ONLY TO HAVE TO DO IT AGAIN IN A WEEK! And this goes on for the rest of your life. I know I’m being dramatic, but that’s how I feel about grocery shopping. So when Adam offered to take my ONE task and do it, I said HELL YES AND I LOVE YOU!

But it’s really not that simple.

Here is what it took for us to make this seemingly small change.

Source: I was drowning under my workload and needed help. An easy task to hand over to Adam was the grocery shopping. (or so I thought!)

Steps: It wasn’t until after we gave the grocery shopping to Adam that I truly realized how many steps go into this. First I shared as many tips and rules as I could remember. A lot of the shopping was mindless because I had been doing it for so long. I shared about chemicals to watch out for on the ingredients list, cheaper alternatives for our basics and organic requirements. Then we talked about when he should go and what staples he should get every time. I created an Evernote list that he can access from his phone so I can add ingredients whenever I think of them. (That didn’t last long, before we went back to the good old paper list)

Then we realized that if he’s cooking and grocery shopping then he needs to choose the recipes. So now he sits down with the iPad (I save recipes on Pinterest that we’ll actually cook) and a bunch of cookbooks to decide what we’ll eat for the week. Then he writes the list.

Time: In total it probably took us an hour to discuss the process of getting groceries, but it’s taken a few weeks and a few trips to work out the kinks.

Investment: $0. It’s free to change tasks, but we’re paying with a time investment.

Effort: Again I thought this would be easier that it was. The hardest part? LETTING GO OF CONTROL! It’s not logical, but my instincts were telling me I was going to starve. I was handing over all of my meals and prep to someone else. Gah! It was REALLY hard not to micro manage, but I knew the faster I handed over total control the faster this transition phase would be over. We compared it to Adam making breakfast. He has it down to a system and he has been making hot breakfast for us every day for a long time. If one day I told him I was taking over I’m sure he’d have a hard time not micro managing my process (and he’d probably pack a secret backup breakfast for work).

It also took more effort to work out the kinks. After each trip we quickly chatted about how it went and what changes needed to be made for next time.

Outcome: Holy groceries! This changes everything! When I say small changes for big impact this is EXACTLY what I’m talking about. We are LOVING the outcome of this small change! Adam is a pro at getting the groceries and has been cooking up a storm. He’s loving that he’s in charge of the entire process. He also feels way better about his contributions to our family. (Not that he should have felt bad before) He literally comes home from the store beaming with pride and whistles while he puts away the groceries. (weirdo) He has since told me it brings him A LOT of joy to feed our family.

And it makes me really happy to eat his food. Win-win! Honestly, he is a phenomenal cook so if you ever have the chance – take it!

The outcome has been equally awesome for me. I feel SO good that we’ve finally successfully handed over a family task to Adam (after failed attempts in the past.) I have more time and I’m A LOT less stressed. Plus I feel like a queen when the groceries just show up. I can’t believe I’m lucky enough to have my ONE task done for me. An added bonus that I didn’t see coming is some time by myself. Adam and I spend every evening and weekend together (lucky us!) and with this extra hour-plus of alone time I’m getting so much done. I am one happy camper after this change.

Together – as you might have guessed – this has been great for our marriage. We reduced frustration for one of us, amplified happiness for the other and infused a must-do family process with joy and ease. Indirect outcomes have been more family dinners, more smiles, more kisses, noticeably more joy which leads to more of so many other good things.

This small change is a DEFINITE KEEPER!

So who gets the groceries in your family? Does the process need to be reevaluated? What’s one way you can infuse the process with joy and ease?

Want help deciding who should get the groceries (or do any task) at your house? Feeling stuck? Let’s have coffee. We’ll get it figured out.